| What Do You Really, Really Want for the New
By Rebecca Coates Nee
January 7th, 2002
When you read this, I'll be well on my way to achieving one
of the biggest goals of my life: motherhood. I will be carefully
packing plastic forks and baby wipes for the two-week trip
to China my husband are taking this month to adopt a one-year-old
But I must admit there were more than a few times in the
last several years when I almost gave up on this desire. Nature
did take its course, but it wasn't the road I had in mind.
Like so many people, when the goal didn't materialize, I tried
to talk myself out of the idea.
Now, as I get so close to being a mom, I don't need Jimmy
Stewart to show me what a wonderful life I'd be missing if
I had taken the easiest route and let my dream disappear.
Parenthood isn't for everyone but I knew in my heart it was
When you get around to planning your goals for 2002, don't
just pile a lot of "shoulds" onto your list. Try
to get back in touch with what you've always wanted before
other people and life is difficulties got in your way.
Choose your goals for this new year with the big picture
in mind. Ask
yourself what you really, really want. What do you want your
whole life, not
just your career, to look like three years from now and two
years after that?
So many of us compartmentalize our career and personal goals
stopping to figure out how the two can or will be combined
in one lifetime.
Think about all areas of your life: career, health, relationships,
spirit and finances. Write down all your desires for each
area. Where do you
want to be living? What kind of car will you be driving? Will
you be working
part time or 60 hours a week? If you want a family, how will
they fit in with
your current career goals?
Now that you've decided what you really want (and deciding
that could be a
goal in itself), think about how your life needs to change
in the next year
to get closer to your true goals.
In two weeks, I'll show you how to take your big picture
and turn it into
manageable goals for the year ahead.