Tombers is the President of Intermat,
Inc., a consulting practice that specializes in the intersection
of media, technology and marketing. For two years, he produced
the Emmys on the Web and supervised web related activities for
the Academy, including for the 50th Anniversary year of the
Emmy Awards. In addition to its consulting engagements, Intermat
recently sold METEORS TALE, an unpublished novel by Michael
ORourke, to Animal Planet for development as a television
movie. Visit his
web site at http://www.intermat.tv
WEARY AND WARY
By Mat Tombers
My old friend Phil recently moved back to New York from California,
after having been away from here for almost twenty - five
left New York and went to California where he taught acting
who wanted to know how to act as well as how to get into a
But a few years ago, trouble with his eyes forced Phil to
options. He couldn't drive anymore and Los Angeles is not
a place to
live if you can't drive, so he decided that he would come
back east and
see if he could find some teaching work here, where one can
successfully without a car so a few weeks ago he packed up
Angeles life and came back to New York.
We'd spoken a few times but hadn't gotten together until last
evening when he came over from where he's staying in New Jersey
dinner with us. As we were sitting over a glass of wine [at
was; he was chugging down honest Diet Cokes] he told me that
he was glad
to be back here. He still loved all the people watching that
being in New York.
He hadn't been back here since September 11th and I asked
him how he
found the city, and its inhabitants. He said to me: people
and very wary, as if we are waiting for the next shoe to drop.
I was surprised because I don't see that as much any more.
don't make us jump --- as high. But then I am here most of
the time and
have grown more used to our reactions. I did my best the next
to step outside myself and to look at the people around me.
It seemed not surprising that Phil was finding people to be
wary. It's the way it is - it is just that we are not as weary
wary as we were even a few months ago. But it's here.
You see, we got through the 4th of July unscathed and there
was a huge
sigh of relief, a collective sense: we dodged a bullet. But
now we are
facing the anniversary of the 11th and people are afraid again.
be this date that we will be targeted again? So we wait. That's
The weariness is from two things, I think. Weary of the day
living with a hole in the ground, weary of the day to day
are beating an increasing staccato as we get closer to the
date and the weariness that comes with just being a New Yorker
now made more difficult from being part of a wounded city.
Every day the news here is full of painful reminders - tales
from a camp
for children of 9/11 survivors, the growing accessibility
of "the hole,"
and the distant and disengaged faces of vendors on the side
Street and Broadway and Trinity Place all hawking souvenirs
t-shirts that have been made in Pakistan as well as quickly
photo journals on "Day of Tragedy" or "Day
of Terror" with heart-rending
photos of exploding towers on the covers.
Is it a wonder we are weary - and wary?