Tombers is Managing Director of Intermat, Inc., (www.intermat.tv)
a television company which executive produces programs and consults
with industry companies on a variety of issues. Intermat, Inc.
is currently involved in approximately thirty hours of television
in various stages for a variety of networks. He is one of the
Executive Producers of OFF TO WAR, a ten hour series for Discovery
Times and for a one hour on international adoptions for Discovery
Health. He has consulted a variety of companies, including Ted
Turner Documentaries, WETA, Betelgeuse Productions, and Creation
Films, Lou Reda Productions as well as many others.
December 14, 2006
Tombers Presents His Holiday Musings
As I write this, I am cozy in the cottage; Christmas carols
play on the stereo and a fire is burning in the Franklin stove.
The Christmas tree is up and it is lit, warming the opposite
end of the room from the stove.
Outside, it is unseasonably warm; the temperature has been
hovering around 50 degrees Fahrenheit for the last week or
so, a circumstance that has resulted in conversations about
global warming mixed with a natural relief at the lack of
The trains going back and forth from the city are filled with
Holiday shoppers, who leave in the morning empty handed and
return at night with the same travelers burdened with multiple
bags, full of Holiday gifts.
I am doing little shopping. I am looking forward to a simple
Christmas, a Christmas of quiet and reflection, peace and
the comfort of a few good friends. The other evening some
friends and I realized none of us had plans for Christmas
Day and have decided we will gather together, with, perhaps,
a few other Holiday waifs and strays and create
a good, relaxing time.
Rather than shopping my brains out, I am baking quiches for
local friends, something personal, something handmade, something
in which I will have invested my time and love rather than
My clients will receive a note that I have contributed to
a charity; as a small company I dont have the manpower
and resources to send gifts and whatever I send wouldnt
be anything needed anyway. So I am giving a donation to a
charity that needs.
The season is about people. That was clear to me tonight.
There is a small community of people who ride the train every
day. I am a regular irregular. When that small community decided
to throw a Christmas party on the train, I was invited to
The grouping consisted of an odd mixture of east coast train
regulars, including a producer for NOW on PBS, a group of
men who help keep their companies humming on-line, a few lawyers,
a couple of state lobbyists, and a few people for which I
have NO clue as to what they do. Everyone brought food and
alcoholic libations. We took over the now defunct café
car; I made martinis while a three course dinner was laid
The core group spread their Christmas spirit to anyone who
ventured into their ken. It made me smile to watch a mother
traveling to family with her five year old son playing fish
with a train regular whom they had never met before while
gales of laughter floated around them.
As a now un-partnered adult, who lives far from any family,
my life has become an interesting and satisfying patchwork
quilt of ad hoc relationships that nurture me and substitute
for the old traditional configurations.
This is the nature of America today, I suspect, a country
much populated by people who often live far from nuclear family
members and who are therefore necessarily engaged in creating
relationships that are both ad hoc and satisfying in the bonding
of individuals who are choosing to be together or who choose
to celebrate the necessity of being together, such as my interesting
group of travelers on the train who have developed a real
kind of friendship, born of shared necessity and bonded by
As these Holidays descend upon all of us, I wish you the best
of them and the best with your families, either those of birth
or those of choice. May you have the nurturing presence of
other people who fill out your selves and remind
you of the magic of both the season and of life.
Happy Holidays! See you in the New Year!